There’s tired—and then there’s the kind of tired that lives in your bones.
The kind of tired that comes not just from doing too much, but from thinking about too much, planning too much, carrying too much—for too long.

They call it the “mental load.”
I call it the MothHERload.

It’s not just about physical tasks. It’s the invisible, unpaid, unspoken labor most mothers carry—quietly, constantly. It’s remembering every doctor’s appointment, packing snacks while answering emails, organizing birthday parties, and knowing where the lost shoe is even though you didn’t wear it.

It’s being the keeper of the family calendar, the emotional regulator for your kids, and the one who sees everything that needs to be done—before it’s even mentioned.

My Moment of Realization

A few months ago, I hit a wall.
I was prepping a presentation, had a toddler screaming for a snack, and got an email from preschool requesting supplies for tomorrow. The baby needed a bath, dinner wasn’t cooked, and my husband asked, “Is something wrong?”

I wanted to scream: Everything is wrong—and I’m still expected to smile through it.

That was the moment I realized: This isn’t just fatigue. This is the MothHERload.

And it’s crushing.

Why We Carry It

Many of us learned early that being a “good mom” meant doing it all. That asking for help was weakness. That love is measured in how much we sacrifice.

But here’s the truth:
We were never meant to carry this alone.

You don’t win an award for breaking under pressure.
You don’t get a gold star for pouring from an empty cup.
Your children won’t love you more because you never rested.

5 Ways I’m Laying Down the MothHERload

1. Stop glorifying exhaustion.
Tired is not a badge of honor. I now speak rest into my routine, unapologetically.

2. Create a “Stop Doing” list.
Every season, I list 5 things I’m no longer doing just because “I always have.” If it doesn’t align with my peace or purpose, it goes.

3. Delegate without guilt.
Whether it’s assigning chores to the kids or using a meal service, I release the idea that “only I can do it right.”

4. Set sacred boundaries.
I don’t explain why I say no anymore. “No” is a complete sentence. Especially when it protects my peace.

5. Protect HER time.
I’ve started scheduling time for myself first, not if-there’s-time-left. Even 20 minutes of quiet, movement, or journaling restores me.

Closing Words

You are not failing.
You are not weak.
You are a woman carrying far more than anyone sees—and you deserve to rest, reset, and be supported.

The MothHERload is real.
But it’s not yours to carry alone.

Call to Action

In the comments, tell me:
What’s one thing you’re putting down this week to protect HER?
Tag a mama who needs this reminder you are never alone in this.